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Claire Porima, Te Ara Pathways
Claire Porima, an expert in coaching for success, shares
some simple guidelines for Life Matters.
As you have enjoyed the summer break, and had time out from
normal responsibilities, you may have thought about what you
want from the year ahead.
According to research, (www.statisticbrain.com ), about
half the population makes New Year resolutions but only 8% of
people achieve what they said they wanted. That's not a
particularly reassuring number, so something is not working.
On the up side, however, research also shows that people who
explicitly make resolutions are ten times more likely to
attain their goals than people who don't explicitly make
resolutions. This is a far more hopeful statistic, and one
that is important when thinking about making positive changes
in our lives.
From my experience in coaching, performance management and
change facilitation, when we get crystal clear about what it
is that we want, we move from a state of limitation, or being
stuck, to being in a resourceful and highly motivated state.
This is when the best in us comes out. We feel focused, in
control and happier because we are doing something important
As I coach my clients through making positive changes in
their life, we go through some key steps:
1. Focus on solutions, not problems: rewrite your New Year
resolution or plan as if you have already achieved your goal:
" I am a successful entrepreneur with my own business"; "I am
financially independent"; "I am healthy and fit"; "I am
making time for myself to [exercise/read/visit a friend/learn
something new etc]; "I am organised and in control".
2. Take action: Make one determined step each day towards
being or doing exactly what you want in your life. It does
not matter if it a small step or a leap forward: taking
action builds up your strength, and keeps moving you towards
solutions and away from problems.
3. Make small decisions: we simply aren't wired to make huge
changes. This is why New Year's resolutions generally fail
because they are too huge and nonspecific (and sometimes made
under the influence!). Instead, make small decisions that are
achievable. Doing this helps support having a positive
mindset, which is necessary when challenges arise and you are
being tested by others or by life in general.
4. Go back to the skills and qualities you've already
identified from writing your Change Resume, and apply them to
your new goals. Knowing what you are good at and how you have
mastered changes in the past gives strength for future
decisions and actions.
If you stumble one day, be kind to yourself. We are all
fallible, we all make unhealthy choices at times, and we are
all prone to making mistakes. Review how successful you
already are in making change happen in your life and focus on
the solution that you want.
If you need to define your goals or the direction you want to
head in, visit my website contact page on www.TeAraPathwaysLifeCoaching.co.nz. I'd love to
be on your change support team. All the best for 2013!