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Claire Porima, Te Ara Pathways Coaching
Claire Porima, an expert in coaching for success, shares
some simple guidelines for Life Matters.
One of the greatest inhibitors to making change is the very
thought of change itself.
Initiating a change, or having change thrust upon us, can
bring about a threat response.
When we are threatened, we crave going back to what is
familiar, or to the habits that we've built up over a
lifetime. The problem is, that these habits aren't serving us
well - which is why we can keep making the same plans or
re-solutions every year. Getting fit, losing weight, changing
jobs, getting more organised, finding more time... these are
all things I hear clients say they want, but they find it
hard to achieve breakthroughs.
The good news is that instead of falling prey to threat and
resistance, or to the f.e.a.r (ie: f.alse e.xpectations
a.ppearing r.eal) of change, you can keep on your path by
developing the mindset and the resilience for making long
term, sustainable change.
Think of building resilience as being your powerhouse, or the
fuel that provides energy for working towards achieving your
goals. Ask yourself, how can you fuel yourself so you can
keep on track with what you want?
There are three important keys to firing up your resolve
1. The act of stating your intent to a trusted supportive
acquaintance or colleague keeps you motivated and on track.
Choose someone to act as your ‘Change Facilitator' but make
it someone who is not emotionally close to you. Ask that
person to hear you out, without making judgment or comment,
but give them license to pose questions so you explore
alternative pathways and strategies. When you speak your
intention out loud to someone else, it takes on a whole new
energetic force and makes your goal real. Engaging a
professional Coach can help accelerate your progress.
Ask yourself: Who can I safely share my personal or business
dreams with who will not judge me but will help keep me
focused, provide realistic ideas and new skills?
2. Being crystal clear about what you want is vital to
success, so keep refining exactly what it is you want. It
takes a while to get it right, but as you drill down to the
specifics of what you really want to achieve, the clearer the
Ask yourself: What else? Keep repeating the question until
you are really clear on what you want.
3. Maintaining your focus on your goal helps you make the
necessary small steps towards getting there. So, write a one
sentence summary and stick in on your wall, fridge, computer
or in your wallet so you have a visual reminder every
Ask yourself: What are the changes I want to create in the
You can turn your resolutions into reality. Keep aspiring to
achieve what you want in your life - you can do it.
I'd love to be on your change team to help you get there. If
you need to define your goals or the direction you want to
head in, visit my website
and aspire courageously.
All the best for 2013!