"I'm a compulsive laundry room thief," says one Facebook
confession. "I'm the reason the 'Public Urination is Illegal'
signs were put up at Coyote Village," says another.
"I sold books for the semester to go to South Padre for
spring break ... Gotta pay for the booze somehow," reveals
yet another poster.
By turns rueful and raunchy, these anonymous admissions pop
up on 'campus confession' pages unofficially linked to scores
of high schools and universities.
Like many social media trends, the confession craze
captivates teenagers and 20-somethings - but alarms teachers,
law enforcement officers and counsellors.
"It's another creative venue where kids are able to say
hurtful things, and that's frustrating," said Sameer Hinduja,
co-director of the Cyberbullying Research Center at Florida
Atlantic University.
At the same time, the pages can sometimes offer a catharsis
of sorts, attracting heartfelt disclosures from students
struggling with depression, alcoholism or eating disorders.
Classmates often respond with links to counseling sites and
offers to talk.
The anonymity of confession pages is at the core of their
appeal, and they use a simple workaround to Facebook's
general insistence that people use their real identity on the
social network.
Students who set up confessional pages must do so under their
real names, as per Facebook policy. But they can choose to
cloak their identity as page administrators. To keep posts
anonymous, they use free online survey tools such as
SurveyMonkey or Google Forms. Confessors simply click on a
link to open up a blank box where they can type their
tell-all.
The page administrator doesn't see identifying information -
just the latest confession.
The pages then prompt visitors to show admiration for the
juiciest confessions by "liking" them and posting comments -
often smart-aleck remarks that can draw fan bases of their
own.
"The more outrageous comments attract more attention ... so
there's little incentive to exercise restraint," Hinduja
said.
Alisen Lafaive found that out quickly when she began reading
the Facebook confession page for Clarkson University in
Potsdam, New York. "At first, I thought, 'Ooh, Clarkson
Confessions! This ought to be juicy!'" said Lafaive, a
junior. Then she began scrolling through posts filled with
crude invective toward women.
"These things are mean," she said. "My feelings are hurt even
though none of it's directed toward me." She posted a plea
for courtesy but was ignored.
The confessions pages do not violate Facebook rules so long
as the content remains within the bounds of civility, said a
spokeswoman for the social network. But the pages have drawn
complaints from some from principals, college administrators
and police.
Dismayed by the content on two high-school confession pages
in Kalispell, Montana last month, police asked Facebook to
shut them down. Facebook closed one and removed offensive
comments from another - but the student instigators simply
started a third page, said Jason Parce, a police officer in
Kalispell.
Parce threatened to charge participants with defamation and
they quickly pulled down their posts. Though some posts were
anonymous, many comments came in through Facebook accounts so
the writers could easily be identified.
"There was a lot of sexually explicit content directed at
specific individuals and a lot of hateful language being
used," said Parce. "Absolutely, kids are more willing to be
crude when they don't have to face anyone. They hide behind
the computer."
High-school pages in Idaho and Arizona have also been shut
down after school officials moved to investigate offensive
posts.
Administrators of several confession sites told Reuters that
they review each submission and refuse to post any that seem
inappropriate.
Facebook also routinely reviews pages on its site and
responds to any complaints about content. If its reviewers
deem a post objectionable, the social network will remove it
or shut down the site entirely, the Facebook spokeswoman
said.
None of these safeguards can determine whether those posting
and commenting on confessions are bona fide students of a
particular school.
At the college level, the concern isn't bullying so much as
brand protection. Universities including San Francisco State
have asked confession sites to stop using school logos and
photographs of iconic buildings for fear that outsiders might
mistake the many tales of alcohol-fueled sexual conquests for
an official depiction of campus life.
Despite, or perhaps because of, official disapproval, the fad
continues to gain steam - and may be helping Facebook regain
some of its allure among teens and college students. A recent
poll by an online survey tool, Survata, found teens and young
adults aged 13 to 25 used micro-blogging platform Tumblr more
than Facebook.
Scores of Facebook confession pages have popped up in recent
months, at small private colleges and huge state
universities. Princeton, Harvard and Yale have pages. So does
Lane Community College in Eugene, Oregon.
Some campuses have Twitter confession accounts as well but
Facebook remains the most popular medium. The University of
Wisconsin-Madison's confessions page has racked up more than
21,000 Facebook "likes." The University of Hawaii at Manoa
has nearly 12,000. College students in India, New Zealand and
Great Britain are baring their secrets online, too.
"It just makes me laugh," said Matt Miller, a biology major
at the University of Hawaii who checks out his classmates'
confessions several times a day. Among the recent posts: a
lament about the difficulty of conversing with beautiful
brunettes, an admission about a romantic relationship with a
teaching assistant, and a cryptic, "Majoring in mathematics.
Judge me."
The campus confessionals teem with references to specific
dorms, classes, fraternities and traditions, giving them an
intimate, gossip-over-coffee feel. Many have also become
forums for posting secret crushes: "To the boy in Art History
with the long hair and blue shoes. You're so cute!!"
The pages can also offer a lifeline to struggling students.
"I want to pass on hope to people who feel like they don't
have any," said Stephanie Suchecki, a graduate student at the
University of Wisconsin-Green Bay who makes a point of
responding to the most wrenching posts.
Moments of compassion, however, are often swamped by the lewd
and the crude - just how some confession junkies like it.
An administrator of the Arizona State University confessions
site recently goaded readers to ramp up their revelations:
"What happened to your crazy stories!?!? Hook ups gone bad?!
Party gone crazy?! Come on guys! This is ASU!"
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