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Change Matters - Master It!
Summer is a good time to reflect on the recent year and plan
what you want the next year to bring - become a Change Master
and 2013 will start off fresher and brighter.
Mastering change is one of the keys to success. How you
respond to change - accept or reject it, go towards or away
from it - determines whether you get stuck in situations, or
if you allow healthy growth and personal development into
your life. We all know that without change there is no
growth. Think about it: if our body didn't change, we
wouldn't grow. If our brain isn't learning new stuff, we
can't do new things. If we are resistant to change, we cannot
You will know someone who is stuck in change misery: they
tell the same story over and over again, living in the past,
or seeming to wallow in a painful change situation without
doing anything about it. You will also know people in similar
situations that they master gracefully - even if the emotions
are huge and the situation distressing or tragic.
The people in this second group are Change Masters and will
have many of the Change Skills that make them happier in
life. Mastering change, and accepting that sometimes change
is painful, means mastering these key life skills.
Right now you, or someone you know, is quite likely in the
middle of one of the following change cycles:
- you are wanting to make a change in your life (you are
ready to return to work, or retire, or you aren't happy in
your current role;
- your relationship is not satisfying; there's no sense of
purpose in your life; you don't like where you live;
- your health, fitness and wellbeing are worrying; you have
too little, or too much, going on in your life)
- you have had a change happen to you in some part of your
life (a relationship matter; a diagnosis; loss of or a new
job; a promotion/a redundancy; loss of someone you love;
shifted house, city, country; had a baby or an older child is
- you are helping someone else go through a change
The first of the Change Mastery Skills is: Write!
Over this summer holiday break, sit with pens and paper (not
a keyboard: the act of writing itself is important) and write
your Change Resume.
Head up the page, then write down every single change that
you have ever gone through, in no particular order - cover
the page! I guarantee you will have 20 changes within 15
minutes. Don't stop writing. There will be more, both small
Then select three life changes and write:
- What you learned
- A key skill or quality that came from the change
- The rewards and the losses
- The positive and negative emotions
Reflect on your Change Resume as you plan for 2013. What
skills, qualities, and experiences do you want to build on in
the year ahead?
By assessing the incredible changes you've already mastered
in your life, you can apply what you know now to how you can
create success in the future. Ask others what is the best and
the worst change they've ever been through. Then ask what
they learned from it. Talk about the changes you want to make
with a trusted person, or engage a coach to explore Change
Matters in a confidential, non-judgmental space. One coaching
conversation can lead to massive new awareness, and new and
creative ways of mastering change.
All the best for 2013!
To learn more, visit my website: www.tearapathwayslifecoaching.co.nz