A day after one of the country's worst child abuse cases ended with murder convictions, police are beginning the countdown to Christmas with a plea to reduce family violence.
Two brothers were found guilty in the High Court at Rotorua yesterday of murdering three-year-old Nia Glassie. Her mother Lisa Kuka was found guilty of her manslaughter.
Two others were found guilty of ill treating and assaulting Nia.
Tuesday is International White Ribbon Day dedicated to awareness of violence against women and Auckland police officers will wear white ribbons all week to mark the occasion.
Police said women and children were over-represented as victims of family violence homicides.
"Wearing a white ribbon is a personal and public pledge never to commit, condone or remain silent about violence against women," Auckland's police communications manager Noreen Hegarty said.
She said the build-up to Christmas was not a happy time for many families.
The added burdens of financial stress, strained family relationships and increased consumption of alcohol were often significant triggers for physical and psychological abuse which could have devastating effects on many families.
She said that during the "festive" month police would respond to about 400 reported family violence incidents in Auckland City and about 100 people would be arrested.
"Many children will be affected by witnessing these incidents."
Ms Hegarty said people should take some early action to ensure their families were safe.
Police conceded that family violence dynamics were often complex and require specialist intervention.
However, there was plenty of help and free advice available and much of it only a phone call away.
Police tips to violent confrontations include:
* Set aside money to cover bills arriving in January and February.
* Moderate drinking -- excess consumption is not needed to enjoy life.
* Take time out if things became heated or stressful. Go somewhere for a few hours to let feelings and emotions calm down.
* When feeling afraid or overwhelmed, talk to someone who is trusted.
* Don't sweat over the small stuff -- minor problems can be resolved without arguments.
* With a shared custody of children, agree for the children to spend time with each parent.
* If fears arise for your own or your children's safety, contact the police immediately on 111.
Other organisations for guidance, support or refuge include:
* Women's Refuge 0800 REFUGE (0800 733843) 24 hours.
* Preventing Violence in the Home 0508 DV HELP (0508 384 357) 24 hours.
* It's Not OK! Family Violence Information helpline (0800 456 450) available from 9am to 11pm.
* Visit www.areyouok.org.nz for information and advice on family violence.
* Citizens Advice Bureau about other services such as drug and alcohol abuse, gambling problems and budgeting services.
