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She asked the Waitaki District Council in July for permission to place a plaque at the sports ground, but was told it was not allowed.
The family subsequently set up their own memorial, consisting of a cross, flowers and balloons, at the site, but on October 7 received a request from the council to remove it.
For anyone who had lost a child, the situation was unfathomable, Mrs Taylor- Blair said.
‘‘As a family, to have acknowledgement is precious to us. Grief is just love with no place to go. A plaque would be a tangible thing for us to be able to express that grief.’’
Waitaki District Council recreation manager Erik van der Spek said the Waitaki Reserves Management Plan 2014 listed Awamoa Park as a sports ground and memorials and plaques were not generally permitted at sports grounds.
The council sympathised with the family, but its view was that cemeteries were generally the most appropriate places for memorials. The approach was consistent with the council’s approach at other crash sites in the past.
The council had allowed the family time to grieve before contacting them to request removal, and had given them to the end of October ‘‘so that there is some closure’’, he said.
Mrs Taylor-Blair said she had contacted the council expressing her disappointment.
‘‘We understand that the reserve isn’t a cemetery, but the cemetery isn’t the place of significance for our family.
‘‘It would be nice to think that people go past there, see his plaque, and remember.’’
Mrs Mataki’s 18-year-old son Shaun Mataki was killed in a crash in Forbury Rd, Dunedin, in June 2003.
She placed a cross at the address after the crash, but it disappeared.
She was not sure who removed it or why.
‘‘To have a cross or a memorial there, you don’t want it to go away. It’s another loss.
"You feel like you don’t have any support. It’s hard not to feel like there’s no compassion,’’ Mrs Mataki said.
Ms Landrebe’s 18-year-old son, Grason Veitch, was killed in September last year in a fatal crash in Ravensbourne Rd, in Dunedin.
Mrs Taylor-Blair said she did not want anyone else to have to feel the way she felt when she was asked to remove her son’s memorial.
‘‘Maree, Susan and I want to acknowledge what happened, because it will happen again,’’ she said.
‘‘We want to have something tangible be a reminder to be safe with driving.
‘‘I feel that we’re speaking up for anyone who will have to go through this in the future. The [Waitaki District] council needs to change the rules to allow permanent plaques,’’ she said.
NZ Transport Agency senior network manager Chris Harris said the agency allowed memorials on state highways in locations where they would not create further safety issues.
‘‘We recognise that white crosses identify to the public locations where fatal crashes have occurred in recent years and can serve as a positive and often potent road safety reminder,’’ Mr Harris said.