A 27-year-old Christchurch man has been charged with murdering Hayden on August 22 while he was under Child, Youth and Family (CYF) care.
Police have recovered human remains from a city cemetery near to the former `tinny house' where Hayden was last seen alive and which has been subjected to intense police forensic scrutiny over the last fortnight.
The tragic teen's family are refusing to comment until the remains found at Ruru Lawn Cemetery, in Bromley, on Tuesday are formally identified.
In the meantime, mates of the 15-year-old created a facebook tribute page, `R.I.P Hayden Miles xx' to express their emotions over his death.
But his mother, Jacqui Miles took offence to the page - despite posting heartfelt messages to her boy on another, very similar site - and asked pals behind it to take it down.
The youngsters refused to back down, sparking a furious war of words between the two camps.
The page administrator posted: "I am not taking this page down. We have a right to have pages where we can write messages for Hayden. We were his friends. We're upset too. So stop your bullshit. Kcool. Missing you bud xo.''
And later adding: "To those telling me to delete this page NO I WILL NOT. As Hayden's friends we have the right to share memories and so on. His mother who wasn't even a mother to him can't tell his friends to basically stop caring. I did this because I care, so I wont delete this page, end of discussion.''
The site was flooded with emotional support.
One poster, Jess Waho-dixon said: "So its all about his mum is it, what about hayden? hes dead! grow up and realise that theres absolutely nothing wrong with this page and the person who made it is a lovely friend! its not up to his mum its up to him and to be honest i think he wouldve loved this page.''
Hope Elizabeth Mckenzie waded in with: "dont delete this page! you have every right to keep it and share your thoughts!! its very sad that people telling you to ! R.I.P Hayden xx''
Paul Garfield Bakker added: "who would be callous enough to say take the page down! shame on you,'' while Jessey Ellis said: "We didn't want him gone, and this is how we are grieving, is that so bad?''
The postings sparked a furious response from friends of Mrs Miles.
The most vociferous came from Liivy Olivia, who said: "If its what his mum wants then just f****** do it and stop being disrespectful!''
And later she ranted: "stay the f*** out of it! She has every right its her lil boy ffs why dont use understand that wtf!!
"Carnt yous imagine what his mum is going through and all yous care about is putting post up that can wait!
"dont you just think its rude that all of use are disrespecting her wanting all post down for now, she wants time to get through it. mby yous should try putting yourself in her place and how she is feeling.''
She gained support from Kelly Black who wrote: "You's should seriously respect the mother in all of this... yeah you're right his friends have a right to grieve but the family should come first, a mother has just lost her son, how would you feel if you were in her position? think about it guys.''
After hours of abusive tit-for-tat postings, the page was finally moderated yesterday.
Mrs Miles refused to comment when approached by APNZ, but posted on another facebook page, R.I.P. HAYDEN PETER MILES: `how do i say goodbye to my boy... love u soo much xxx''.
Last night, there were five separate memorial pages to Hayden on the facebook social networking site alone.
Hayden was robbed of a cask of wine just hours before he was murdered, police allege.
A 27-year-old man appeared in court on Monday charged with his murder, and two others have been charged in relation to his disappearance.
An 18-year-old woman, granted name suppression, is accused of being an accessory after the fact, while Timothy Kuka, 35, from Parklands, is charged with robbing Hayden of a cask of wine on August 22 - the last day he was seen alive.
