Remotely Interesting: Mothers: past it or blessed?

Old Age Mums is a television programme that delves into the ethically and morally grey area of women having children well past their menopause.

It is a subject matter far too serious for those who block out reality by concentrating on the trivial, the trifling and the inconsequential.

Like this column. But here goes.

Old Age Mums (Vibe, February 27, 9.30pm) is also called Too Old to be a Mum, and raises, but does not quite get round to overtly answering, some difficult questions.

In the United States, where the largest number of unusual things happen with the greatest regularity, half a million children have been born through in vitro fertilisation (IVF) treatment since the 1980s.

Some of those babies have been born to women who are old enough to be grandmothers.

Old Age Mums introduces Sue Tollefesen, who became Britain's oldest mum at 58.

Sue sparked an ethical storm when she had daughter Freya using IVF.

She tells her story of having spent years looking after elderly parents, before meeting husband Nick, and realising she had left it too late to have children.

After being turned down for IVF in the United Kingdom, she turned to Russia, where the largest number of dodgy things happen with the greatest regularity, and got the go-ahead.

All seems good with Sue, despite her concerns she will be in her 70s by the time Freya goes to high school.

Sadly, and evidently since the programme was made, Sue has separated from Nick, and now believes there should be an age limit of 50 for IVF treatment.

Too late again.

Lauren is 63, had a child at 58 and twins just shy of 60, and has concerns about what people think of her.

She says she immediately tells people her age when she first meets them.

"I would rather people think I look pretty good for 63, rather than people think I'm younger and look not so good."

In Delhi, Rajo Devi became the world's oldest mother at 70.

Black magic did not work, and her husband marrying her younger sister did not work, as she too did not conceive.

IVF worked.

While Old Age Mums gives no particular view, after showing the apparently happy mothers with their children, it ends by showing the other side.

Lauren, for instance, has hands rendered unusable by arthritis.

Her pregnancy had problems, and her twins are developmentally delayed.

Sue worries about her child being bullied because she is an older mum, and that she will likely be dead before her child could choose to marry and have children.

Make up your own mind.

 

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