I Really Do: Choosing Your Celebrant

You’re walking down the aisle, waiting for your partner to spot you. They turn, and you take their breath away.

After months of planning, you are finally taking your vows in front of your loved ones on probably the most important day in your lives.

Which is why the person standing together with you in front of all your guests, welcoming them and officiating your ceremony is one of the most significant people at your wedding.

You may decide on a festival-themed wedding and would like a celebrant that is happy to wear gumboots.

You may decide on a more formal occasion and would like the ceremony to follow a certain traditional structure, or maybe you are a couple that find yourselves never on time and need a celebrant who is relaxed and doesn’t mind the start time being flexible.

You must find someone that suits your style, someone you really connect with and trust to have the huge responsibility of narrating your special day.

Pick someone that is going to fit with your personalities. The ceremony can be one of the most emotional parts of your wedding so you need someone you feel comfortable to laugh and cry with.

Someone that understands you, your sense of humour, your ideas and how you want your ceremony to be received by your guests.

A really good fit between celebrant and couple is important. They will get to know the intimate parts of your relationship story and sometimes the harder things you want to acknowledge in your ceremony, such as losing a loved one. You should feel natural and comfortable with discussing things openly and honestly, and your relationship should not be awkward or forced.

TIPS:

GET IN EARLY

A good celebrant will book out quickly – sometimes up to a year or more in advance. The only other option is to be willing to be flexible on your time or date.

The most popular wedding date and time is between 2 and 4pm on a Saturday. Early-morning weddings or twilight weddings are a fabulous idea and will allow you to get the celebrant you want by working around other weddings. Friday or Sunday weddings are also a great option and often work better for other vendors too!

Once you find your celebrant, make sure that you have something in writing from them. This not only ensures you are getting what you are expecting, in relation to date, time, location and fees, but should also outline some terms and conditions for all involved. You should sign a contract with them, that way everyone is clear about what is expected of each other.

MOST IMPORTANT

Ask them what they are going to wear! There is nothing worse than celebrant turning up in an outfit that clashes with your colour scheme or style theme and takes the focus away from the couple. A celebrant should not be memorable for the wrong reasons. If they blend with the groom’s colours, for example, it will make the overall tone of your photos much softer.